ve to do what you prefer not to do。 Really！ For example； I am not the world’s best housekeeper。 I do not really enjoy cleaning； washing floors； windows； etc。 Yet there are some people who enjoy the meditative aspect of this work and who really get satisfaction from a job well done。 It is to my benefit to pay someone to do this work so I can take that time earning money doing things that I enjoy。
We are all very different and different things appeal to each one of us。 Just because someone else enjoys a particular thing does not mean that you must。 We can trust what I call the “fun index” to assist us in knowing if a particular action is the one for us。 We can break away from the rule of thumb that judges things by whether they bring money or career advancement。 We can change that to making our decisions based on whether an action will bring us pleasure and personal satisfaction。 Does the work you do leave you feeling proud and pleased with yourself？ Are you following the voice of “shoulds” or the one of “want to”？
Yet； the programming is strong。 I find myself struggling over a task and it ends up dragging itself out。 Have you noticed that the things that you dislike doing are the ones that seem to take forever to get done？ As for the opposite viewpoint； well as the saying goes； “Time flies when you’re having fun！”
Learning to go against that old programming and trusting the “fun index” is an ongoing project。 Every small step is； at the same time； a big leap。 Each step will move you away from dissatisfaction with your life and closer to self…love； self…acceptance； self…esteem and joy in your everyday existence。
Anytime you ignore that inner prompting； you accumulate self…loathing and disappointment in your being。 Your inner child once again feels letdown and unimportant。 Each letdown reinforce the inner child’s belief that everybody else’s wishes are more important than its own。 Once again its desires are relegated to the lowest priority on the list。
Yet； it’s YOUR life！ Why let someone else dictate how you “should” live it？ Ask yourself what steps YOU want to take！ Listen to the voice within which will tell you what would really make you feel fulfilled and satisfied。 YOU ARE the boss of your life！ After all； it’s yours； isn’t it？
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幸福是一种感觉
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有一天在杂货店，我和一个朋友排队购物时，我不断地向她诉说我的孩子们是多么懒惰。那天清晨，我上完晚班回家，房间又像多数时候那样，乱作一团。
“我觉得，如今的孩子总是一味索取，我为他们竭尽全力，可他们甚至都不能帮我保持房间整洁。就算我不烦，其他女人看到我那又脏又乱的房间，也会指责我。”
“你知道自己多幸福吗？”我们身后的一个女人说道，“我非常希望回到家后，能看到房子里混乱不堪。地毯弄脏了，或者到处是碟子、成堆的脏衣服、混杂的袜子，我都不介意，甚至别人要说我的房子有多脏，我也不在乎。事实上，我就喜欢那样。只要能再和我的孩子们在一起，能拥抱、亲吻并告诉他们，我是多么爱他们，我就非常愿意踢开脚边的杂物，在混乱的房子里穿行。你知道吗？在一次车祸中，我的两个孩子都遇难了，现在只剩下我和丈夫，我的房子总是很干净，衣服堆放整洁，碟子也摆放妥当。
“墙壁上没有手指印，莫名其妙的污点也不会出现在地毯上。房子里没有吵闹声，没有砰的关门声，没有笑声，也听不到有人说‘我爱你，妈妈’。所以，要知道，你是多么幸福啊！此刻你所反感的一切正是我渴望得到的。我多么希望能抱着自己的孩子，擦干他们的眼泪，分享他们的梦想，或者只是看着他们玩耍。如果我还有孩子，房子再乱我也不在乎，只要拥有他们，我就开心了。”
现在，如果你走进我的房子，看到一片混乱。你觉得多糟糕我都无所谓，因为我感到非常幸福。
■ 心灵小语
有时候，麻烦也是一种幸福，就看我们以一个怎样的角度来看待它。当你的孩子经常吵闹的时候，你会觉得他们很烦；当你的孩子离你而去了，你就会感到原来孩子的吵闹也是一种幸福。
Blessed
Anonymous
A friend and I were standing in line at the grocery store the other day； and I was telling her how lazy my children were。 I had e in from work that morning； and like most times； my house was wrecked。
“I believe children nowadays are just out for what they can get。 I bend over backwards for them； and they can’t even help keep our house clean。 It wouldn’t bother me so； but it’s the woman who looks bad if the house is a mess。”
“Do you know how blessed you are？” A woman behind us asked。 “I would love to go home and find my house a mess。 I wouldn’t mind my carpet being ruined or the dishes left everywhere。 I wouldn’t mind the dirty clothes being piled high or the many socks to match。 I wouldn’t even mind anyone talking about my dirty home。 Matter of fact； I would love it。 I would dearly love to kick my way through the house just to get to my kids and be able to hug them； kiss them and tell them how much I love them。 You see； my two children were killed in an auto accident and now it’s just my husband and me。 My house stays clean； my clothes stay put up； the dishes are done。
“There are no fingerprints on my walls； no mysterious spots on my carpets。 There are no sounds of arguing； no slamming doors； no laughter； no I love you Mom。 So you see； you are very blessed。 What I would give to be going through what you are right now。 How I would love to be able to hold my kids； wipe away their tears； share their dreams。 Just to watch them play。 If I had my children； I wouldn’t care how my house looked。 I would be happy just to have them。”
Now if you e into my house and see a big old mess； you can think bad thoughts if you want； but I feel greatly blessed。
我的生活真的那么糟吗
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曾几何时，你是否有这样的感觉呢？生活是一团糟，真的太糟了，你渴望能有另一种环境。你发现生活对你来说很艰难，工作吃力，生活无味，一切都像是扭曲的。
读一读下面的故事吧，或许会改变你的人生观：
我和一个朋友结束谈话之后，他告诉我，尽管他做着两份工作，可每月的收入也只是刚过1000美元，不过他还是快乐地生活。
他解释说这是因为在印度所看到的一件事……几年前，他经受了一次巨大的打击，情绪抑郁，就前往印度散心。
他说他亲眼目睹一位印度母亲用砍柴刀砍掉自己儿子的右手。母亲眼中的无助、四岁孩子的疼痛尖叫，直到今天还令他费解。
你或许会问，那位母亲为什么要那样做，是孩子淘气，还是孩子的右手被感染了？两者都不是，而仅仅是为了两个字——乞讨！绝望的母亲故意将孩子弄成残疾，这样孩子就可以上街乞讨。
我的朋友震惊了，他把吃了一半的面包掉在了地上。很快，五六个孩子一窝蜂地朝这片沾满沙粒的面包冲过来，争抢着——这是饥饿的自然反应。
朋友开始告诉自己，他是多么幸福。能有完整的身体、有工作、有家庭、有机会抱怨食物的好坏、有机会穿衣、可以拥有许多那些人欠缺的东西。
现在我也开始思索和感受，我的生活真得很糟吗？或许不是，我不应该觉得太糟。你觉得呢？或许下次你这样觉得时，就想想那位失去一只手的孩子，仅仅是因为能上街乞讨。“不要满足于你想得到的东西，而要满足于你已经拥有的东西。”
■ 心灵小语
生活中有太多的无奈与不协调，这一切都源于不知足。珍惜，才是我们所要做的，不要再无视身边的一切，或许你还未发现它的重要，一旦失去，就会追悔莫及！
Is My Life Really Bad
Anonymous
Have you ever，at any one time，had the feeling that life is bad，real bad，and you wish you were in another situation？You find life make things difficult for you，work sucks，life sucks，everything seems to go wrong。
Read the following story，and it may change your views about life：
After a conversation with one of my friends，he